Q: I've been away from the person who abused me for some time, but I get flashbacks, and sometimes memories come unbidden and overwhelm me or ruin good times now. What can I do to help me with this recurring problem?
A: Used to be that one just sort of had to wait until those internal responses to memories faded away over time, if they ever did. But there are some techniques now that can quickly and easily change unpleasant memories.
Go to http://www.changemaking.com and look around, play with the Tools and More Tools sections. If you have questions about anything there, email me and I'll answer them here or directly, if I can.